My Life

Can't seem to remember the last time i had a good sleep. During my pregnancy, I had been waking every nights to go to the toilet. Beside my own bed, toilet was my next best friend.

And a few months had passed, Baby Rayner is going 6 months tomorrow. Looking back at my blog, i have not updated anything during my maternity leave. Everyday passed so quickly that i never keep track of anything. Baby Rayner occupies 90% of my time everyday and 10% of time dedicated to do housework. I can't seem to also remember the last time i had constructive conversations with my husband. During our free time when baby is sleeping, we hardly ever talk like we used to because it was only free time we had our own me-time. But that doesn't make me or him love each other lesser. Our once-romantic love had evolved into 'being responsible and commitment' love.

This is family. And having a family is happy and tiring.

So, I had returned to work last month and never had been even busier. And all the more busier as company is still implementing the WFM policy.

But first, Happy soon to be 6th Month to Baby Rayner.

Wonder who he takes over more

Baby Rayner is growing well. During the last jab , Doctor said that he was 7.4 kg and 66 cm. He is a 75th percentile which makes him a big baby. Doc was kind enough that he didn't use the word : Fat. Well, almost everyone who sees him says that he is chubby. Those are just kind words and we appreciate that.

Most of the time he is a good boy. He only fuss when he wants milk and sleep. I latches him to sleep which all the more makes me tired but i guess this is all worthwhile. I can't shy away from mom duties just because im tired right? Afterall, breastmilk is the best food for him and i hope to provide him up till 1 year old. I am halfway through breastfeeding journey and i am hanging on. I heard from many moms that they missed latching their babies because they do not latch anymore when they are older. To be honest, my breastfeeding journey is not easy and there are many times i wanted to give up. Having a supportive hubby and environment really help to spur you on the tough journey. I do agree that breastfeeding is a lonely journey, but with the right encouragement, i made it though for the first few months. I am also glad that i have a baby who knows how to suck.

Tummy time

Baby Rayner is learning to flip but with countable successful attempts. He like to have fun and will laugh at silly mimics. His laughter is so innocent and infectious. Mum and dad just smile because you do. During the past months, i have been re-packing his clothes again and again, putting away those small ones and washing up the bigger sizes. He is no longer an infant and it makes me miss those days. Now i understand why everyone say : wah so fast!

To everyone's eye, it is an overnight thing but to parents like us, it is the days and nights which we went through, the hard times when baby refuses to sleep or drink, the days when we had to bath him and re-bath him because he pee in the bath tub, the clothes we have to wash almost daily to ensure he has fresh clothes etc. But it was all fun.

Happy birthay to papa.

We celebrated my hubby birthday at Mariott South Bridge in April. Hope my hubby did enjoy himself. It was a 3 days 2 night to wind down from our busy life.

Last month love booked a staycation st MBS on my birthday. I was feeling so excited since it been a while had staycation for my birthday.

We had a great time though i had to make him sleep at night.

He loves it when dad carries him like this. He is one such lovable boy. He seems easy going enough and does not afraid so strangers (so far). He loves to explore and always looking for daddy to have fun.

Now as a mum, my perspective of what a family needs is stability. I love my hubby and son to the core. Nothing beats the comfort a home even if you have a bad day. And i hope Baby Rayner will grow up in a happy, warmth and safe environment. Mum and dad will always be there for you.

And to my hubby who (maybe doesn't) read my blog. Thanks for the nice stayca. It costs a bomb but even so, after so many years, you still continue to splurge on me. Love you since Day 1 and more. You have been a great dad since Baby born

I know baby will be as mischievous as you in the future

Alright,signing off here

Coming to 5th Month

by Elvina on 4:18 PM

Can't seem to remember the last time i had a good sleep. During my pregnancy, I had been waking every nights to go to the toilet. Besi...

Happy Chinese New Year Everyone!

Today is 17.02.2021 and it the 6th day of Chinese New Year! Due to Covid-19, CNY for this year is pretty quiet. Government sets a rule to have only 8 visitors for visiting per day per household. So now that there are 10 people in my family, we have to take turns to visit our relatives.

However, in this very year, CNY is a gift. A big gift to my hubby and our family; Baby Rayner is born!! I was in Week 39 that week and we are waiting for Baby's signal. I was not induced since Hubby had told Doc that we wanted natural. So basically , that means that if i see signs of blood, waterbag burst or feeling contractions, i should be going to hospital. If Baby is still not out by my EDD ( 15 Feb 2021), Doc told us to go back to see him and he may induce baby.

Dont't know which part of baby. His last ultrascan the week before he pop.

Since it was in the CNY period, we can't be missing steamboat right? :P Love's family came to our house for steamboat on Wednesday for reunion dinner. It was yummy and i had my fill. I hope baby also enjoy the steamboat while he is still in my tummy.

After the steamboat, Ah Bii helped to clear the food and washed the dishes. We had a good rest and we are welcoming CNY Eve the next day. As we knew that my labour is near, we decided not to go back to my dad house for prayer on CNY Eve.

Just a random photo that Bii bought a chair and assembled for me after i told him i had backache from siting the dining chair

On Wednesday night, i couldn't sleep well at all. I had a few hours of sleep as my tummy was feeling weird. My tummy was feeling upset and i told Ah Bii about it. He said that i could have eaten too much during dinner. I did not think much about it because i do agree that i ate quite a bit during dinner.

On CNY Eve, Love has to work half day so i was alone at home in the early morning. I had tummy upset again when i woke up but i didn't think much about it as I manage to poop in the morning. Love returned around noon but he went on to wash his car because his car is dirty. I was also telling him to wash the interior before installing baby's car seat.

At 2pm, i felt a pain at my lower back. Love was not around so i asked my cousins if they know what is happening. After a few discussions with my cousins over the whatsapp groupchat, i decided that i should monitor the frequency of the pain. The next 'pain' came at 2.30pm. I went to sleep at 3pm and woke at 5pm. And then, i felt another sharp pain at 5pm. Love just returned from washing his car. Then again , i felt another pain at 5.30pm.

This time, my back was so painful that i couldn't do anything at all. I had to put down whatever i am doing and sit down to rest. The pain lasted for 1minute and it was freakingly painful. At 6 pm, the pain is getting as frequent as 10 min and lasted 1 minute each. When approaching 8pm, the pain was like 7 min per internal and slowly, the duration lasted 2 minutes each.

It was totally unbearable for me and i told my hubby to send me to hospital. With my hospital bag, he drove me to Mount Alvernia Hospital. We reached at around 10pm and went straight to the delivery ward. The nurse took my weight and after that send me to one of the ward. I was told to change to the gown and lie on the bed while the nurse/ midwife took measurement of dilation.

And I was dilated between 4-5cm already.

Took a photo when i was better

Having the fluid run through me.

While waiting for the epidural, Ah Bii went to do my admission.

But then, after a few moment later, he came up to tell me that there are missing documents and he needs to go home to retrieve it. But luckily, the hospital allow him to return the next day with the documents, meaning he could be there for me.

See this papa sit there and play his Slam Dunk

The CNY show ended at around 1am i think? The anaesthesia doctor came in a while later and injected the epidural. I was told to curl up in to the fetal position while the doctor administer the drug. There are

like 2 injections (i cant remember as i was in pain). One of the injection was poked to my spine. I could still feel the feeling of the needle poking into my spine :\ It took around 20 minutes for the epidural to take effect . And after that, I felt numbness on my both legs and there I was there shivering and shaking heavily due to the side effect of the drug

Don't understand why i can still twist in this photo

We waited for my dilation to hit 10 cm. The nurses at Mount A are very nice. They are quite gentle and told me to rest and sleep if possible, as i need to push in the early morning. As i was shaking so much, i did not manage to catch any sleep in the middle of the night. Love seems like he did sleep a bit.

At 6am, Dr Adrian came to look at my condition to see if i was ready. However, i was still a bit far from 10cm and the nurses gave me a medication for contraction? I was answering okay to all their questions as i didnt know what to expect. At 7am, doctor came in again and told the nurse to get ready while i push. After checking, Doc told me that baby is still high and he hasn't come down even pushing after 4 times. He told me that his head stuck at my bladder. He was also telling me that i was losing blood and he suggested emergency c-sect.

I was shock as i didn't expect myself to go through C-Sect at all. The next moment that comes to my mind was the cost of emergency c-sect. But for Baby's sake, i am willing to go through whatever needs to be done, whatever the cost may be. So immediately, i was told to sign the consent form and the nurses began prepare the operating theater within 1 hr. It was hectic and they unload me from bed to bed, pushing me out of the delivery ward and took a lift to the OT. There in OT, there are another doctor to administer a stronger epidural , an assistant doctor and Dr Adrian. The nurses began to cover me with a green cloth from my neck down so i couldn't see anything. At the same time, Dr Wong (the doctor who administer the epidural) told me that if i feel any pain, i have to let them know so they will stop the operation immediately. If i could feel the pain and it was bearable, he told me to hang on and wait for Dr Adrian to complete the procedure. I was actually afraid when i hear that. Love was not there with me since it is an Emergency C-Sect.

But luckily all went well.

Within the next 5-10 minutes, i could hear baby's cries. I was feeling emotional when i hear his cries. It was such a moment though i did not expect he would enter the world in this way. I was still very awake and could hear baby's cries, the tugging and stretching of my lower part of my body. Taking baby out of my womb was a fast job, but stitching me back takes so much longer than expected.

After i was being stitched up, i was pushed to an observatory area to see if i have any side effects or complications. After 45 minutes, i was pushed back to the ward where i saw my love there.. He told me that he has already see baby :)

I was kinda of bedridden for 1 day and i could not get up from the bed. I had the urine bag there so i could only lie on the bed and do nothing. The nurse help me wore the compression socks as my legs were still swollen from my pregnancy.

Our little angel :) Daddy first photo with baby.

Baby arrives in the morning of Chinese Lunar New Year and our families are very happy for us. I shall continue to blog again

Baby Rayner <3

Welcoming your arrival at Mount Alvernia Hospital 12.02.2021

by Elvina on 8:33 PM

Happy Chinese New Year Everyone! Today is 17.02.2021 and it the 6th day of Chinese New Year! Due to Covid-19, CNY for this year is pretty qu...

Another week gone by and I am entering week 38 now. This morning went to the Gynac and Dr Adrian said baby is estimated to weigh 2.8kg to 3kg. He also mentions that I need to take note of baby kicks everyday, make sure he kicks 10 times a day. Baby has been doing good as he has been kicking since morning till night.

Please continue to do so baby ❤️

My leg and hand has been swollen since 2-3 weeks ago and it just gets worst. I guess there is no medicine for this until I give birth to Baby Rayner.

This morning Dr Adrian shows his big tummy and head. Everything is looking good and he told us to go back next Saturday.

I am starting my HL next week and I know I should get proper rest before I give birth. But I guess my phone will not stop ringing and I would not be totally void of my job. Company is just too lean and I am so sure that I will be needed in one of those days next week.

I am starting to feel anxious about baby's arrival as we are beginning another stage of life together. I have so many questions in mind: Will baby be easily cranky or difficult to handle? Am I going to be a good mum? Will I continue to show patience to my little one? Will my husband take a role in parenting too and share the burden with me?, etc etc. As much as there are many doubts, I still couldn't wait to meet him. Overall, its been a happy 9 months since I begin my pregnancy.

Alright, I shld be resting soon as it is past midnight. Nights everyone!

Into Week 38 of my. pregnancy

by Elvina on 12:41 AM

Another week gone by and I am entering week 38 now. This morning went to the Gynac and Dr Adrian said baby is estimated to weigh 2.8kg to 3k...

This week marks the last week of my 8th month. Baby Lim is baking happily in there before we see him next month. It's the CNY period and all of us are busy doing something else.

This morning Daddy Lim woke up and started cleaning the fans, cleaning the ceiling and walls after satisfying my crave for prata (after so many months), had engaged some air-con guys to clean our air-cons and that is done for the day.

My feets get swollen so easily and I am walking even slower than before. It takes a lot of energy to get up and down from the chair. However, I am still doing the laundry as usual in the morning.

This week I am experiencing numbness of my fingers. Each time I woke up, I had to literally 'find my fingers' as I couldn't feel them at all. My fingers are getting weaker each day. When I'm working, I couldn't feel that I'm pressing the keyboard and I can't gauge the strength of pressing those letters haha. It ki ds of feel weird but I shall preserve until little one is born. I heard that all these symptoms go away as soon as your little one pops.

Serious looking pig legs lehy.

Alright I shall rest now, signing off abruptly here ~

Into Week 35 of my pregnancy

by Elvina on 5:48 PM

This week marks the last week of my 8th month. Baby Lim is baking happily in there before we see him next month. It's the CNY period and...

Year 2020 is indeed very different from other Years. Since March, I have been working from home till now and I am pregnant! Love was away from me for one of the month this year which has never happened before. During his absence, i took the opportunity to keep fit since we are in a lockdown situation.

We didn't visit many places due to COVID as the number of cases in Singapore is still unstable.

An impromptu date to Jewel for Burger and Lobster.

To have a happy pregnancy is important. Hope Baby will be as happy as i am when im carrying him in my tummy. Sometimes i can't have everything goes my way but there is nothing much I should be complaining about. I have a supportive hubby, healthy baby, caring cousins, great friends to hang out with and a team of understanding colleagues.

And we will name our Baby Rayner. Hope Baby Rayner will be born to be decisive, wise warrior. Love and I feel that as a boy he should be strong and hope he will grow up to be one. Mum and Dad will be rooting for you.

High Tea at The lobby Lounge with Dad and Sis

December was nice. I was clearing my leave and I booked a place at Shangri-Ri La on one of the Friday to meet my dad and sis for Afternoon Tea. It was a nice place and good time for me to wind down. I am getting heavier and moving around became more like a chore than a normal activity. Therefore, I better do what i want to do before i can't haha.

Into Week 34 pregnancy, Baby weighs around 2 kg and i had gained like about 13 kg so far. I have 44 more days to go before Baby's arrival. We are about done with his stuff and ready to welcome him home. Building a family on our own is a completely a different feeling. It's like amazing how 2 completely different strangers who was never part of you before became one of the most important person in your remaining life and then creating a new life together with him/her. Sometimes life is just full of surprises that we can never foresee.