My Life

Popping number 2!

Elvina / 1:29 AM

So another year past and I am totally not actively writing my blog. Blog has became a past tense and everyone is doing vlog. Dun really bother if anyone really read blog but I probably just want to pen down my thoughts since this url is just for the purpose.

Today is 19 Nov and here we are at my sister house. The kids were sleeping soundly and it allows me to have time for blog. This year hasn't been easy for us. We were managing so many things at once but after all, its life. Who says living is easy haha.

Towards end of the year we embraced number 2 !! Yeah!! And I feel my family is complete. Before we were married, we were discussing about family planning and we agreed that 2 might be a good number for us. I also hoped that I could complete this 'task' before I hit 35 years old and ta-da, I've met my 'target' for good.

Number 2 pregnancy was tough. Besides having to send No 1 up and down from class till birth, the 3 months course which WX went did gave me slight breakdown during his absence. It was indeed an emotional roller coaster ride during my 6th month to birth because that was when he was in JLC period. But I got to stay strong for him, for my family beside being heavily pregnant. Only the spouse will know what we went through.

The love of my life. And I really love this man a lot. Congratulations on being a distinguished graduate. Really happy and so so proud of you. Though at times he can be totally irritating, but I still love him very much (somehow). Here is a pic of his graduation of his JLC 2023. You will always have my back when everything falls. By the way, I was only 11 days away from my C sect in this photo and I was a fat Cinderalla for a day before I go home and breastfeed my baby.

My helper who went through with me knows what kind of a person I am and the kind of struggles I faced during the period. There were times I had to go doctors appointments alone and I might have to admit myself to hospital when he was 'outfield'. I was never a strong person but I will for my family. Faith kept me going.

The beginning of the course where they need to take a handsome photo of themselves. Rayner is excited to join the cohort and was camera ready.

Sometimes it's true that words aren't enough to describe how we felt, there was always a mixture of sadness, frustrations yet determination ,perserverance, positive attitude made me tide through much obstacles.

Ending of year 2023, let me highlight this whole year with some photos.

Rayner started school this year. Son is growing up and never a day I would want to miss his growing stages.

Son turns 2 this year.

Attending TP wedding in March. Wx was his groomsmen for the day. They knew each other long before I knew Wx. Best buddies!

The daily travel to Ah Ma house after Rayner ends school for dinner. My MIL is such a gem who cooks and take cares of us. She is the next mum who I am always indebted and grateful to. And I told myself I will look after her if anything happens to her.

Legoland trip in April

Batam trip

My ex boyfriend. Happy birthday to you 🎂. Love you love you and still love you hahaha

Demise of my beloved grandmother. She is the kindest person I knew and always gave us Yakult to drink whenever we visited her. Losing her is like losing part of my life :(

Happy Fathers day!

Looking good in June 2023

Clothes became limited but happy birthday to me.

Love starts to be late for every dinner at the start of his course. Mum packets food for him so that he is fed well. I was 5months pregnant and I was beginning to struggle daily activities.

The fat and ugly photo to keep ourselves entertained whe dad wasn't around.

The almost weekly travel to doc appointment via bus in August.

The long awaited dining at Eggslut. The 1st time and last time I probably visit.

The tired man who came home to sleep at 12-1-2-3am in the morning almost every night.

Keeping ourselves entertained with the sick son

My husband trying out the suit for his graduation

. I always think that man in uniform is handsome. This is a killer to me amd I fall prey very easily to this.

A non negotiable date (under my rule) with him for a dinner in Sept before he went for his 4 days 'outfield'.

A short dinner above Singapore ground but the beef wasn't as good ( he was saying). Happy anniversary to us

Those weekends when I took helper and rayner out so that love can have peace at home and I could enjoy family time too. I was 8 months pregnant when I drove us out.

15 Sept 2023 here I am with number 2. Almost 1 week before baby 2 was out.

A week before my c sect. Attended family day at Papa's school. Funnily. I thought we were going to birds paradise hahaha. Rayner tore out a surprise card which papa hid under his poster. Only then, I knew how far Wx was travelling everyday. I felt heartache.

Going through contractions again despite being planned on 24th Sept, little gal decided she prefer 23 Sept and I went through excruciating pain once more. Fearful of needles and injections but i remain poker face through the whole labour process.

Papa Lim and his 前世情人。 I'm glad he has one otherwise I have no daughter. Hello baby R too!! Mama loves you too!

When the sibling met

The extravagant gift from hubby as a token of appreciation for giving my all to this family. It dazzles my eyes and I can't stop blinking.

Precious one

Rainie's full month. We've come so far from friends to dating to married couples and 2 mini version of u (why not me T.T) Life has never been this complete.

There are lots more I would like to post but I think my phone is not working too well now. I shall end here for now.

To be continued...

The beginning of the course where they need to take a handsome photo of themselves. Rayner is excited to join the cohort and was camera ready.

Ending of year 2023, let me highlight this whole year with some photos.

Rayner started school this year. Son is growing up and never a day I would want to miss his growing stages.

Son turns 2 this year.

Attending TP wedding in March. Wx was his groomsmen for the day. They knew each other long before I knew Wx. Best buddies!

Legoland trip in April

Batam trip

My ex boyfriend. Happy birthday to you 🎂. Love you love you and still love you hahaha

Demise of my beloved grandmother. She is the kindest person I knew and always gave us Yakult to drink whenever we visited her. Losing her is like losing part of my life :(

Happy Fathers day!

Looking good in June 2023

Clothes became limited but happy birthday to me.

Love starts to be late for every dinner at the start of his course. Mum packets food for him so that he is fed well. I was 5months pregnant and I was beginning to struggle daily activities.

The fat and ugly photo to keep ourselves entertained whe dad wasn't around.

The almost weekly travel to doc appointment via bus in August.

The long awaited dining at Eggslut. The 1st time and last time I probably visit.

The tired man who came home to sleep at 12-1-2-3am in the morning almost every night.

Keeping ourselves entertained with the sick son

My husband trying out the suit for his graduation

. I always think that man in uniform is handsome. This is a killer to me amd I fall prey very easily to this.

A non negotiable date (under my rule) with him for a dinner in Sept before he went for his 4 days 'outfield'.

A short dinner above Singapore ground but the beef wasn't as good ( he was saying). Happy anniversary to us

Those weekends when I took helper and rayner out so that love can have peace at home and I could enjoy family time too. I was 8 months pregnant when I drove us out.

15 Sept 2023 here I am with number 2. Almost 1 week before baby 2 was out.

Papa Lim and his 前世情人。 I'm glad he has one otherwise I have no daughter. Hello baby R too!! Mama loves you too!

When the sibling met

The extravagant gift from hubby as a token of appreciation for giving my all to this family. It dazzles my eyes and I can't stop blinking.

Precious one

Rainie's full month. We've come so far from friends to dating to married couples and 2 mini version of u (why not me T.T) Life has never been this complete.

There are lots more I would like to post but I think my phone is not working too well now. I shall end here for now.

To be continued...

After neglecting my blog for so long, I realised my last post was when my son was 5 months old. Today, he is 14 months. Little boy has hit his 1 year old mark and that celebrate me as a parent for a year.

He has grown so much that he now walks, dance and doing self -feed ( at time). I'm forever busy as a working mother, trying to attend to his needs sometimes and my work during the weekday. I couldn't have done it without my mother's in law help. She had been sacrificing a lot for this family and taking a toll on herself. I hope that moving near to her will ease some of these burden.

Here's a photo to celebrate mum's birthday this year. Glad that we could still dine out with 5 pax.

It has been quite happening to us this year. We sold our flat and finally found a place to stay. Will be settling in next month by end of May. We will be locating from north east to east. Moving out from our 1st matrimony home wasn't a plan we had when we bought here. It just happen and I thought that perhaps it would be a good choice to move.

Me and love in our new house. Moving out is not an easy task, they're are lots of packing and unpacking to do. And with a kid around, it's makes everything seems busier twice. Luckily Xiong had been doing all these paperwork, admin issue, financial calculation by himself, something that he is good at while I just work and keep internal affair tidy.

Fast forward to end March, our family was down with covid. Little boy contracted followed by me and hubby. He was super cranky on the first day running fever and flu. Went to the PD to confirm he was covid positive and submitted the results to MOH. Hubby and I got it 2 days later while taking care of him. The 1st day was crazy, we are down with headache and cough. Had never been in such pathetic state. Took about 10-14 days to be fully recovered while cough lingers.

Signing of here as I am getting tired from a day work

A year later

by Elvina on 11:54 PM

After neglecting my blog for so long, I realised my last post was when my son was 5 months old. Today, he is 14 months. Little boy has hit h...

Can't seem to remember the last time i had a good sleep. During my pregnancy, I had been waking every nights to go to the toilet. Beside my own bed, toilet was my next best friend.

And a few months had passed, Baby Rayner is going 6 months tomorrow. Looking back at my blog, i have not updated anything during my maternity leave. Everyday passed so quickly that i never keep track of anything. Baby Rayner occupies 90% of my time everyday and 10% of time dedicated to do housework. I can't seem to also remember the last time i had constructive conversations with my husband. During our free time when baby is sleeping, we hardly ever talk like we used to because it was only free time we had our own me-time. But that doesn't make me or him love each other lesser. Our once-romantic love had evolved into 'being responsible and commitment' love.

This is family. And having a family is happy and tiring.

So, I had returned to work last month and never had been even busier. And all the more busier as company is still implementing the WFM policy.

But first, Happy soon to be 6th Month to Baby Rayner.

Wonder who he takes over more

Baby Rayner is growing well. During the last jab , Doctor said that he was 7.4 kg and 66 cm. He is a 75th percentile which makes him a big baby. Doc was kind enough that he didn't use the word : Fat. Well, almost everyone who sees him says that he is chubby. Those are just kind words and we appreciate that.

Most of the time he is a good boy. He only fuss when he wants milk and sleep. I latches him to sleep which all the more makes me tired but i guess this is all worthwhile. I can't shy away from mom duties just because im tired right? Afterall, breastmilk is the best food for him and i hope to provide him up till 1 year old. I am halfway through breastfeeding journey and i am hanging on. I heard from many moms that they missed latching their babies because they do not latch anymore when they are older. To be honest, my breastfeeding journey is not easy and there are many times i wanted to give up. Having a supportive hubby and environment really help to spur you on the tough journey. I do agree that breastfeeding is a lonely journey, but with the right encouragement, i made it though for the first few months. I am also glad that i have a baby who knows how to suck.

Tummy time

Baby Rayner is learning to flip but with countable successful attempts. He like to have fun and will laugh at silly mimics. His laughter is so innocent and infectious. Mum and dad just smile because you do. During the past months, i have been re-packing his clothes again and again, putting away those small ones and washing up the bigger sizes. He is no longer an infant and it makes me miss those days. Now i understand why everyone say : wah so fast!

To everyone's eye, it is an overnight thing but to parents like us, it is the days and nights which we went through, the hard times when baby refuses to sleep or drink, the days when we had to bath him and re-bath him because he pee in the bath tub, the clothes we have to wash almost daily to ensure he has fresh clothes etc. But it was all fun.

Happy birthay to papa.

We celebrated my hubby birthday at Mariott South Bridge in April. Hope my hubby did enjoy himself. It was a 3 days 2 night to wind down from our busy life.

Last month love booked a staycation st MBS on my birthday. I was feeling so excited since it been a while had staycation for my birthday.

We had a great time though i had to make him sleep at night.

He loves it when dad carries him like this. He is one such lovable boy. He seems easy going enough and does not afraid so strangers (so far). He loves to explore and always looking for daddy to have fun.

Now as a mum, my perspective of what a family needs is stability. I love my hubby and son to the core. Nothing beats the comfort a home even if you have a bad day. And i hope Baby Rayner will grow up in a happy, warmth and safe environment. Mum and dad will always be there for you.

And to my hubby who (maybe doesn't) read my blog. Thanks for the nice stayca. It costs a bomb but even so, after so many years, you still continue to splurge on me. Love you since Day 1 and more. You have been a great dad since Baby born

I know baby will be as mischievous as you in the future

Alright,signing off here

Coming to 5th Month

by Elvina on 4:18 PM

Can't seem to remember the last time i had a good sleep. During my pregnancy, I had been waking every nights to go to the toilet. Besi...

Happy Chinese New Year Everyone!

Today is 17.02.2021 and it the 6th day of Chinese New Year! Due to Covid-19, CNY for this year is pretty quiet. Government sets a rule to have only 8 visitors for visiting per day per household. So now that there are 10 people in my family, we have to take turns to visit our relatives.

However, in this very year, CNY is a gift. A big gift to my hubby and our family; Baby Rayner is born!! I was in Week 39 that week and we are waiting for Baby's signal. I was not induced since Hubby had told Doc that we wanted natural. So basically , that means that if i see signs of blood, waterbag burst or feeling contractions, i should be going to hospital. If Baby is still not out by my EDD ( 15 Feb 2021), Doc told us to go back to see him and he may induce baby.

Dont't know which part of baby. His last ultrascan the week before he pop.

Since it was in the CNY period, we can't be missing steamboat right? :P Love's family came to our house for steamboat on Wednesday for reunion dinner. It was yummy and i had my fill. I hope baby also enjoy the steamboat while he is still in my tummy.

After the steamboat, Ah Bii helped to clear the food and washed the dishes. We had a good rest and we are welcoming CNY Eve the next day. As we knew that my labour is near, we decided not to go back to my dad house for prayer on CNY Eve.

Just a random photo that Bii bought a chair and assembled for me after i told him i had backache from siting the dining chair

On Wednesday night, i couldn't sleep well at all. I had a few hours of sleep as my tummy was feeling weird. My tummy was feeling upset and i told Ah Bii about it. He said that i could have eaten too much during dinner. I did not think much about it because i do agree that i ate quite a bit during dinner.

On CNY Eve, Love has to work half day so i was alone at home in the early morning. I had tummy upset again when i woke up but i didn't think much about it as I manage to poop in the morning. Love returned around noon but he went on to wash his car because his car is dirty. I was also telling him to wash the interior before installing baby's car seat.

At 2pm, i felt a pain at my lower back. Love was not around so i asked my cousins if they know what is happening. After a few discussions with my cousins over the whatsapp groupchat, i decided that i should monitor the frequency of the pain. The next 'pain' came at 2.30pm. I went to sleep at 3pm and woke at 5pm. And then, i felt another sharp pain at 5pm. Love just returned from washing his car. Then again , i felt another pain at 5.30pm.

This time, my back was so painful that i couldn't do anything at all. I had to put down whatever i am doing and sit down to rest. The pain lasted for 1minute and it was freakingly painful. At 6 pm, the pain is getting as frequent as 10 min and lasted 1 minute each. When approaching 8pm, the pain was like 7 min per internal and slowly, the duration lasted 2 minutes each.

It was totally unbearable for me and i told my hubby to send me to hospital. With my hospital bag, he drove me to Mount Alvernia Hospital. We reached at around 10pm and went straight to the delivery ward. The nurse took my weight and after that send me to one of the ward. I was told to change to the gown and lie on the bed while the nurse/ midwife took measurement of dilation.

And I was dilated between 4-5cm already.

Took a photo when i was better

Having the fluid run through me.

While waiting for the epidural, Ah Bii went to do my admission.

But then, after a few moment later, he came up to tell me that there are missing documents and he needs to go home to retrieve it. But luckily, the hospital allow him to return the next day with the documents, meaning he could be there for me.

See this papa sit there and play his Slam Dunk

The CNY show ended at around 1am i think? The anaesthesia doctor came in a while later and injected the epidural. I was told to curl up in to the fetal position while the doctor administer the drug. There are

like 2 injections (i cant remember as i was in pain). One of the injection was poked to my spine. I could still feel the feeling of the needle poking into my spine :\ It took around 20 minutes for the epidural to take effect . And after that, I felt numbness on my both legs and there I was there shivering and shaking heavily due to the side effect of the drug

Don't understand why i can still twist in this photo

We waited for my dilation to hit 10 cm. The nurses at Mount A are very nice. They are quite gentle and told me to rest and sleep if possible, as i need to push in the early morning. As i was shaking so much, i did not manage to catch any sleep in the middle of the night. Love seems like he did sleep a bit.

At 6am, Dr Adrian came to look at my condition to see if i was ready. However, i was still a bit far from 10cm and the nurses gave me a medication for contraction? I was answering okay to all their questions as i didnt know what to expect. At 7am, doctor came in again and told the nurse to get ready while i push. After checking, Doc told me that baby is still high and he hasn't come down even pushing after 4 times. He told me that his head stuck at my bladder. He was also telling me that i was losing blood and he suggested emergency c-sect.

I was shock as i didn't expect myself to go through C-Sect at all. The next moment that comes to my mind was the cost of emergency c-sect. But for Baby's sake, i am willing to go through whatever needs to be done, whatever the cost may be. So immediately, i was told to sign the consent form and the nurses began prepare the operating theater within 1 hr. It was hectic and they unload me from bed to bed, pushing me out of the delivery ward and took a lift to the OT. There in OT, there are another doctor to administer a stronger epidural , an assistant doctor and Dr Adrian. The nurses began to cover me with a green cloth from my neck down so i couldn't see anything. At the same time, Dr Wong (the doctor who administer the epidural) told me that if i feel any pain, i have to let them know so they will stop the operation immediately. If i could feel the pain and it was bearable, he told me to hang on and wait for Dr Adrian to complete the procedure. I was actually afraid when i hear that. Love was not there with me since it is an Emergency C-Sect.

But luckily all went well.

Within the next 5-10 minutes, i could hear baby's cries. I was feeling emotional when i hear his cries. It was such a moment though i did not expect he would enter the world in this way. I was still very awake and could hear baby's cries, the tugging and stretching of my lower part of my body. Taking baby out of my womb was a fast job, but stitching me back takes so much longer than expected.

After i was being stitched up, i was pushed to an observatory area to see if i have any side effects or complications. After 45 minutes, i was pushed back to the ward where i saw my love there.. He told me that he has already see baby :)

I was kinda of bedridden for 1 day and i could not get up from the bed. I had the urine bag there so i could only lie on the bed and do nothing. The nurse help me wore the compression socks as my legs were still swollen from my pregnancy.